Mon, 6 April 2015
Taking swift action can be very rewarding and fruitful at times. You get an idea and put it into action. Or you jump on the bandwagon for a new product and it works out well for you.
I am definitely a fan of action and forward momentum. If you are like me you feel the same.
A too Swift analysis with a final verdict can sometimes lead you astray, however. So many of my clients suffer the affects of jumping to conclusions too quickly. I call it Living in the World of Assumption.
Our assumptions generate ideas and feelings about a situation and these drive our actions.
We make assumptions about what others want from us and why, we take guesses at what our boss meant by that, we decide what the look on a co-worker’s face means about us.
I love the poem, “The Cookie Thief”. It illustrates what can happen when we assume. I first heard it read by Wayne Dyer years ago.
Here it is:
The Cookie Thief
by Valerie Cox
A woman was waiting at an airport one night,
She was engrossed in her book but happened to see,
So she munched the cookies and watched the clock,
With each cookie she took, he took one too,
He offered her half, as he ate the other,
She had never known when she had been so galled,
She boarded the plane, and sank in her seat,
If mine are here, she moaned in despair,
How many times in our lives,
Jump on the bandwagon
Jump for Joy
Do Jumping Jacks
But do NOT jump to conclusions!
All I can say is clarify, clarify, clarify! When in doubt, ask clarifying questions rather than jumping to conclusions!
Once while working with a client he exclaimed, “since I started working with you I feel like I’m constantly asking, ‘can you clarify that for me?’”
I laughed and told him there are all kinds of ways to start a clarifying conversation. I’ll make you a list.
That list become a .pdf with 50 different ways to ignite clarity. If you’d like me to send it to you shoot me a message. Go to defeatthedrama.com Click on the podcast site and then go to the submit your drama challenge form.
I’ll happily email you a copy!