Thu, 15 January 2015
Click To Apply For A FREE Leadership Breakthrough Session With Kirsten Today! Jane from the US asked:
I am being interviewed on the 6th of January for a Director position that will oversee a team that has been full of drama for the past year and a half. I have been informed that some on the team believe I am the reason for the previous directors dismissal, and that if I am to take the position, they won't work for me. When asked in the interview, "How will you handle or deal with the current "drama" "unstructured" situation in the area?, what is the best way for me to answer? Hear Kirstens solutions in this episode of Defeat YOUR Drama. Click To Apply For A FREE Leadership Breakthrough Session With Kirsten Today!
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Mon, 12 January 2015
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Thu, 8 January 2015
How to Lose a Customer: Click To Apply For A FREE Leadership Breakthrough Session With Kirsten Today!
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Mon, 5 January 2015
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Thu, 1 January 2015
Click To Apply For A FREE Leadership Breakthrough Session With Kirsten Today! In theory working with friends seems like it would be great. And, at times it does work out well. However, over and over I find my clients struggling with the negative impact of work friendships. We spend a lot of time at work so it’s bound to happen. We become friends with people at work. There are many ways you can end up supervising a friend:
The problem these friendships often breed drama. Here are some scenarios I’ve seen:
How do I define drama? If you’ve been listening to this podcast for a while you know that I define it as anything that shifts focus from where it should be; on providing great service. Friendships will happen at work and you can have friendships without generating drama but you have to have good boundaries and solid ground rules.
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Mon, 29 December 2014
Click To Apply For A FREE Leadership Breakthrough Session With Kirsten Today! Are you one of those people who avoid change at all cost? Maybe fear stops you in your tracks or your stubbornness gives you pride. Maybe you celebrate your stagnation. No matter how change avoidant you are I bet you’ve benefitted from change, perhaps without even knowing it. Change is often good! Let me illustrate:
See, regardless of how change avoidant you are you have succumbed. And, in many instances, if you stop to think about it, I bet that change has been good. So, change has been thrust upon you through technological advances. Where do you need to stop making excuses and start embracing change personally? What excuses have you been using? Are any of them really valid? The New Year is upon us and it is time to say I Choose Change! Did you ever see one of those round wooden “Get a Round To it” coins? Fun play on words and so true. When you get around to it……… How have you been filling in this blank: I will ___________________ when I get around to it. (exercise, take that class, eat healthy, write that book, travel to that destination) Pretend like I’m handing you one of those round to it’s right now. The truth is, you could be doing more of your get around to it items. You could. There will never be a perfect time. What is REALLY stopping you? Does it need to? Are there at least some small steps you could start making right now? Here are some questions to ask to get you moving. Enlist the help of some trusted advisors. An outside perspective often helps. I did an episode on the 7 Key Characteristics of a Great Trusted Advisor. Go here if you haven’t heard that one yet: http://goo.gl/gyAemb
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Thu, 25 December 2014
Click To Apply For A FREE Leadership Breakthrough Session With Kirsten Today! Many companies have a formal policy that requires employees to keep the specifics about their pay private. I certainly understand what motivates these policies. Conversations about pay almost always cause drama! However, rarely do these policies serve their purpose. And, often, I find they are enforced more aggressively when there really is no legitimate rhyme or reason for how much employees are paid. In other words, the gag order is created to avoid the drama induced by an unfair pay plan. The reality is pay is an emotional thing. It’s not JUST about the dollars. AND, probably the more you try to keep it a secret the more they’ll talk about it. It’s just kind of the nature of things. If employees don’t understand how their pay is calculated they won’t feel that their own pay is fair. I don’t know about you, but I’ve rarely heard anyone say, “they pay me too much.” Either people are quietly neutral about their pay or they are disgruntled about it. Few are singing from the rooftops about their hourly rate or salary. Another fun fact about compensation, once you provide some kind of compensation it quickly becomes an entitlement. Now they just expect it. Take it away or provide less and…….you’ve got drama. I’ve spent years working in compensation and have generated calculations that impacted the wages of thousands. I know the emotion that pay practices can ignite! And I’ve learned some strategies to avoid the drama that is always a potential. So….what can you do to minimize compensation drama? Here are a few strategies:
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Mon, 22 December 2014
Click To Apply For A FREE Leadership Breakthrough Session With Kirsten Today! Many of my new clients share complaints about employees that will not implement new processes or use new protocols. Teams often seem to do everything in their power to resist change. Leaders are plagued with comments and complaints like these. Do any sound familiar?
My clients are left feeling frustrated, dis-empowered and ready to throw in the towel, resigned to the fact that change will never happen. Once we dive in to the steps they took to make the change, however, it is easy to identify where they’ve missed some key elements. If you struggle to get your team to implement change here are six surefire strategies to create team change that sticks.
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Thu, 18 December 2014
Click To Apply For A FREE Leadership Breakthrough Session With Kirsten Today! Do you set goals and fall short of meeting them? Do you make promises to co-workers and then fail to follow through? Are daily choices inconsistent with the outcomes you say you’d like to create in your work or life? You are not alone. Whether it’s a New Year’s resolution to get to the gym 4 times per week or a commitment to an employee that you’ll be better at delegating tasks with a reasonable amount of lead time, we humans have a tough time breaking bad habits and implementing the new and improved. We have great intentions. We just get stuck. And before we know it 5 months have passed without any noticeable change or personal growth. So, based on the title of this episode you might be thinking, “oh yay! She’s going to tell me it’s okay. Everyone does it anyway. Move on and just be okay with how things are.” Sorry. That’s not the emphasis today. Yes, I will still encourage you to stop beating yourself up when you fail to meet a goal or a deadline. However, the reasoning is different. If you’ve been listening for a while or have worked with me you know that I’m all about deafeating drama. Beating yourself up is just a waste of time. And it shifts your focus away from meeting your objective. You see, when you are calling yourself names and mentally berating yourself, where is your focus? On you and how bad you are. Is this motivating? No. Is this time spent on creating a new plan that DOES move you towards your goals? NO. Beating yourself up is just self-induced drama. It shifts your focus away from where it needs to be; on making the plan you must implement to meet your objectives. And, too often our berating tends to lend the opportunity to give ourselves a pass. Do any of these sound familiar?
Our mental beat down can become an excuse, a long term justification. And how motivated do you feel while engaging in this kind of negative self talk? Get over yourself and get on with it! Now, I don’t want you to completely skip over the feeling of dissapointment or the loss of what could have been. Experience the pain to motivate you to new momentum. So, notice it quickly but don’t park there. Don’t let a dissapoinment become a long term beat down. When a client shares their story of a missed deadline or failed commitment my first question is always, “how does it feel?” If it’s a failed commitment to another person I also want them to think how that person might feel or what their team might be saying to each other. I also ask them to think about how they might feel if someone failed to follow through for them in the same way. This helps build the motivation for change. The goal is to reignite the commitment. From there we move quickly to, “Now, what do you want to do about it?”
If you’re like most of my clients you have big dreams and a hearty list of goals to tackle. You have a vision for the difference you want to make. Don’t get in your own way. Break those goals into manageable stepping stones and create the positive mindset that you WILL make them happen one daily choice at a time. And, if a bump in the road happens caused by you or something out of your control you’ll keep on keeping on. Your plans are too important to give up on! Click To Apply For A FREE Leadership Breakthrough Session With Kirsten Today! |
Mon, 15 December 2014
Click To Apply For A Leadership Breakthrough Session With Kirsten Sarah from South Carolina I am excited to say that my business has grown over the last 7 years. I am very lucky. As it has grown I have hired more employees. Here’s my drama, I still feel like I’m doing everything. I really thought that as I added more people I’d be able to scale back some on my hours and really focus on my favorite parts of the business. That just hasn’t happened. Some employees do say I’m a perfectionist but I really feel like I let them do their work. I try to modify my expectations. I really want to have some work life balance but so far no matter how many people I hire I’m still working my tush off. Sarah, so sorry to hear about your struggles. Let’s get you some customized solutions. As always, In the Defeat Your Drama segments, I will provide solutions based on the information provided. I will obviously not have full details so will provide customized strategies based on what you share. Always consider your own specific circumstances before taking any action. These are suggestions not guarantees. If you don’t have a specific destination you never know where you’ll end up. The first two strategies are about designing your destination. #1 Design Your Life and Work Determine the number of hours you’d like to work per week and how you would like to divide those work hours. Will all of your work time be done on location or will you conduct some of your work from home. Is that a possibility? Would you like to find time to volunteer in your child’s school or take a class yourself? Where will you carve out time for you each week? Don’t worry about what your team will think and don’t worry about how you’ll make it all happen yet. This exercise is the first phase of creating your destination. What do you want your life and work to look like? How should the two blend? #2 Determine What You Love to Do and Are Great at Track the tasks that you are completing now. Break them down. For instance, if you are engaging in marketing for the business, don’t just write down marketing. Break it down into the smaller tasks of marketing. It’s possible that you love and are great at some of the pieces of marketing but would prefer to delegate other aspects of it. Once you create your list begin to analyze each task. Categorize them. Highlight the tasks that you love to do and are great at. The goal is to spend a majority of your time there. Create another list of the things that you are not good at and dislike. Those items should be delegated to someone who has the strengths to carry out those tasks well! Next, analyze the list of tasks you’d like to focus on to determine the number of hours required. Can you fit all of these tasks into the schedule you’ve designed? If not, you may need to add some additional items to your “To Be Delegated” list. #3 Create a Plan for Who Will Own the Tasks You are Delegating Once you have your complete list of tasks to offload you’ll need to Create a plan for who will take on the tasks you are delegating. Evaluate your current team. Do you already have people in place on your team who could handle them? If they are not currently able to take on tasks you must delegate what training do they need to get ready? If they do not have the ability even with training what kind of employee(s) must you hire? Then you must determine whether you have the manpower to backfill the tasks you will offload. Is your team over capacity now or do they have some wiggle room. How much time will they need to complete the added responsibilities. If not, you will need to increase your team. What kind of employees will you need to hire? Listen to the 4 episodes on hiring #50 through 53: EP50: 4 Steps You Must Follow to Avoid the Disastrous Drama Generating New Hire: Plan EP51: 4 Steps You Must Follow to Avoid the Disastrous Drama Generating New Hire: Source EP52: 4 Steps You Must Follow to Avoid the Disastrous Drama Generating New Hire: Sift EP53: 4 Steps You Must Follow to Avoid the Disastrous Drama Generating New Hire: Choose Make sure that you have a solid plan for each item on your list. Have a specific person assigned along with any training or other communication that will need to occur before the work can be passed along. Create deadlines for communicating the new expectations and for any training. This will give you a timeline for achieving your end goal and will generate the list of tasks you must complete to make it all happen. #4 Delegate Tasks Well You say that you still feel like you are doing all of the work. Often my clients express the same feelings. When we dive into how they are delegating work I always find that they are missing at least one of the 6 important steps of great delegation. As soon as they add the missing elements follow through from their team increases exponentially. I will assume that you are missing some of the steps as well. If you haven’t already, listen to episode #2 Six Simple Steps to Great Delegation: http://goo.gl/2NI1L5 You’ll be able to determine which step you are missing. Write the steps on a sticky note and make sure that you are setting clear expectations for your team. Hold them accountable. Let them know it’s a new day. You did mention that you have some perfectionist tendencies. This can make it difficult to delegate. I advise that you start small and begin to work that delegation muscle. Celebrate your successes and keep your eye on that prize! The more you delegate the closer you are to that end goal. #5 Feel Peace and Less Drama With a game plan mapped out you can immediately find peace knowing that you are making progress towards your end goal of finding more work life balance and enjoying the benefits of a more productive team. Click To Apply For A Leadership Breakthrough Session With Kirsten
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