Mon, 11 February 2019
Do you have some lingering relationships ....that can be challenging …tear you down….cause grief…..have baggage…..long histories… ……these relationships can and DO zap our energy, steal our joy, drum up false beliefs about ourselves, and sometimes even stand in the way of achieving our dreams. Yes, addressing relationship stuff can feel overwhelming, but often remedies are simpler than you’d think if you know how to define the right fix. That’s why I’ve designed the Relationship Renovation Roadmap I can’t wait to show you how! Go to DefeatTheDrama.com/Roadmap to check it out! Where are you in the making an impact process? Are you brand new and still working through the idea in your head? Perhaps you’ve just started to share with others, or maybe you’re well on your way and enjoying some success. Whether you’re announcing a new business, podcast, book, network marketing endeavor, volunteer initiative, ministry or nonprofit dream…… One thing is certain……once you start sharing your idea, those with opinions thoughts, cautionary tales, similar stories they read about, something they heard one day ……..alllllllll start sharing theirs…… As the old saying goes, “Opinions are like a***holes. Every person has one”….. And you end up with all kinds of feedback and words of quote unquote “wisdom” whether invited or not: Are you serious? I heard of a guy who did that too and it was terrible! Why would you waste time on that? Those are all scams! I tried that and it didn’t work out for me at all. It won’t work for you either. You can’t do that! You’re too busy already! You don’t know anything about how to do that. You’ll never get it done. You’re too much of a quitter! You’ll never be able to create change there. The problem’s way too big! That’s too hard! You won’t get anyone else to care about that! What do you know about that topic? Why would anyone listen to you? You should do this instead…… It’s important to keep in mind that most of these opinions, thoughts, ideas, cautionary tales are moving through their own fear filters, and are boxed in by their own life experiences and knowledge. And many times, they’re just thrown out there with little thought or any attachment to your success or future. It might just be that the person wants to look smart for a minute. Maybe they like to think of themselves as well-informed…..and maybe, just maybe……they fear YOUR success……and the words are shared to halt your progress. Even when well-intended, words can be unhelpful and will get in your head to cast doubt where it doesn’t need to be if we give those opinions more weight than they’re worth. So why do we listen?!? You are not obligated to heed the words or warnings of every person who shares advice. Today I give you license to let words fall as if on deaf ears. Instead, be intentional about who you give the privileged position of speaking into your life. Some call it trusted advisor status. Perhaps you call them mentors. Whatever the title, choose wisely. There are specific characteristics that someone should have before you give them this esteemed role. Here are 7 Musts for Your Mentors or Trusted Advisors They Must:
If someone who is not a trusted advisor weighs in just listen to their advice, thank them and move on. Sharing an opinion does not obligate you to consider or follow through based on that advice. For More Information on the Relationship Renovation Roadmap... Go to DefeatTheDrama.com/Roadmap to check it out!
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