Mon, 1 March 2021
Congratulations on the choice to invest in you and your business
My hope is that you are taking in the information I share here and then getting in action
NO analysis paralysis
Today I’m going to cover……….a mindset shift strategy
The goal is that by the end of our quick time together you will have the motivation needed to hurdle into the discomfort of change and the specific steps to take if this area is a challenge for you
I know from questions I’ve received and work with thousands of leaders over years that increasing team follow through is a focus for many
Over the course of almost 30 years I have worked with MANY leaders who love to keep everyone happy – great goal – but it doesn’t always jive with leadership…..or parenting for that matter – and there are, ironically, some similarities
The goal is the find business success – and it isn’t always possible to achieve that AND keep everyone happy – that’s Reality
I always say, you are who you are in your work and in your life – we can work on one and we’ll impact both. This has tended to hold especially true when it comes to people pleasing -
Here are some clues that you might be avoiding conversations or messages that might make people mad
If this is you - you are not alone!
I can’t count the number of times I’ve had clients tell me, I just want everyone to be happy. I’m just really nice.
Generally, what are they doing to try to keep everyone happy? avoiding tough conversations, lying, withholding information, manipulating circumstances, saying yes to way too many tasks……which all lead to overwhelm, resentment, frustration.
And there are many unintended consequences, beyond the personal build-up of resentments, overwhelm, frustrations, disappointments, chaos that comes with trying to keep everyone around you happy so that you can feel okay. The lost energy spent to track modified messages, make things happen covertly, stuffing true feelings while plastering a smile.
Yes, beyond these personal consequences are these:
You Rob Others of their Opportunity to Excel – They have no idea you’d like them to do better or be different. By staying silent or complaining only to others you are robbing them of the chance to choose different actions.
How often are you saying, I just don’t have time to have that correction conversation?
You are Effectively Allowing Employees to Make Decisions for the Business
If they show up late, leave early or take longer lunches they are setting work hours
If they fail to follow the processes you’ve outlined or use the new piece of equipment they are designing how work should happen
If they are staying on cell phones, having bad attitudes with your customers or patients, they are making those business decisions for you.
If they decide deadlines by missing yours – those are business decisions they are making
And it is highly likely that your employees
People can’t trust you: – Yep, that’s right! Whether it’s just a deep down feeling they carry or something they know to be true for certain, those around you can’t trust your words. You say you are fine, but are you really? You say you can help, but will you actually show? You say you’re happy with their achievements, but have they really done enough?
So many of my clients have been in this situation – in every instance once they started speaking up transformation happened – quickly
Angry employee story – resigned
Another instance – after some push back – during the period of transition when they thought they could still make the rules – employee got on board – productivity up! Investment in a good employee saved and ROI increased as work aligned with business objectives
Do you feel motivated to make the change that you must?
Here are 5 Steps to Stop Your People Pleasing
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Kirsten Ross Vogel is an author, podcast host and CEO of Focus Forward Coaching where we help leaders
Direct download: 158_Leading_While_Your_Message_Makes_Some_Mad_edited.mp3
Category:leadership -- posted at: 10:12am EDT